( last login Sep 16, 2025 ad #8149 )
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Location: |
Tucson, Arizona |
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Age: |
74 years old | |
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Gender: |
male | |
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Ethnicity: |
Caucasian / White | |
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Diet: |
Vegan | |
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Religion: |
Jewish | |
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Alcohol: |
Never | |
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Smokes: |
Never | |
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Body type: |
Athletic/Fit | |
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Height: |
5' 9" (175cm) | |
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Sign: |
Not important | |
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Marital status: |
Single (divorced) | |
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Have Kids: |
None | |
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Want Kids: |
Yours are fine | |
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Education: |
PhD/Post Doc | |
| Income: | undisclosed | |
| Relocation: | Yes | |
| Relationship: | Serious relationship/marriage OR activity partner | |
My description:
Strive to live a simple, nonmaterialistic, meaningful, and purposeful life. I'm a Luddite at heart, reminiscing about the halcyon days when we weren't overdependent on technology. I embrace sechel, not artificial intelligence, and modesty, not social media. "Don't fret about not being well-known; instead, strive to be worthy of being known" (Analects, book 4, verse 14). Jewish ideals inform and guide in all aspects of life. These include honesty; respect for the sanctity of all life, which includes being veg*n; not hurting people's feelings or saying negative things about them; shunning gratuitous hatred of those who think differently; giving people the benefit of the doubt and the opportunity to do the right thing; concern for the vulnerable and the disabled; having a higher purpose in life, including work; and learning for the sake of learning, including from everyone! But people with similar values come from many paths in life, the ultimate expression of which is being a mensch or, as Confucius termed it, a junzi, someone who sets an example through his or her actions, which speak louder than words.
Enjoy hiking, being in nature, lizard-watching, learning, artistic creativity, and dry humor (but not sarcasm). Introverted and sometimes lost in thought, but hopefully thoughtful in more ways than one! Look for ways to help others while avoiding self-serving feelings like validation and pride. Empathetic to the point that it can sometimes cause distress. Adventurous but also risk-averse. Vegan for 35 years.
I live in the desert, which, it has been said, teaches humility, not only because we are dwarfed by the majestic mountains and the expansive valleys but also because we are humbled by the miraculous, mind-blowing adaptations that allow life in all its forms to not merely survive but thrive in the most challenging of environments. Nature is our teacher and helps us improve our character traits.
I stopped practicing clinical medicine almost 30 years ago when it was no longer possible to do so ethically in the current environment. Besides, the behavior of your colleagues rubs off on you! I've written extensively about the depraved medical system, one in which those who are in it shouldn't be and those who should be aren't, and about how it should be.
And now, for the final course, mon petit chou, my sweet, here is your fortune cookie containing another Chinese proverb: "Good-hearted words don't need to be many; just a few can make a close friend."
Headshot is from July, 2023.
Seeking:
Someone with shared values, good character traits, and a compatible way of life. Nos différences font notre richesse (Our differences will be our wealth). Just be yourself. Is your glass always half full? Maybe it's better to be half empty. How so? Consider, as per the kabbalistic concept of tzimtzum (rhymes, roughly, with dim sum), limiting yourself in order to increase the empty portion of your glass, thereby giving others space to grow and to thrive. A good relationship is one in which you are thinking about what you can do for the other person, not about what that person can do for you.
An ideal relationship is one in which one party knows what the other is thinking without a word having been uttered. Love the Chinese proverb "The word 'forbearance' is a home's treasure."
Another Chinese proverb: "If you do not help others, reciting all the scriptures will be in vain." No matter which faith people identify with, the religion of most is worship of the self — "what's in it for me?" in terms of validation and personal benefit. One's religion should not be about self-interest but rather about serving — by improving oneself in order to be kinder toward others and to set an example that will help make the world a better place in which to live for all its inhabitants. As Viktor Frankl suggested, ask not what you want from life but rather what life wants from you.
As an only child, I learned to cope with being alone. But "[i]t is not good for a person to be alone" (Genesis 2:18). What I'm seeking, then, is companionship and more: interdependence, nearness, intimacy, oneness, and love.
