Eric
(last login date is private ad #5000 )
(last login date is private ad #5000 )
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Location: |
Santa Cruz, California |
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Age: |
59 years old | |
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Gender: |
male | |
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Ethnicity: |
Caucasian / White | |
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Diet: |
Vegan | |
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Religion: |
Agnostic / not religious | |
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Alcohol: |
Never | |
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Smokes: |
Never | |
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Body type: |
Average | |
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Height: |
5' 11" (180cm) | |
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Sign: |
Virgo (Aug 23 - Sept 22) | |
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Marital status: |
Single (never married) | |
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Have Kids: |
None | |
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Want Kids: |
undisclosed | |
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Education: |
Ask me | |
| Income: | undisclosed | |
| Relocation: | Possible | |
| Relationship: | Serious relationship/marriage OR activity partner | |
My description:
Note that I'm interested only in a vegan partner; this is important to me.
I’m compassionate, self-reflective, romantic, serious at some times, quite playful at others. I really enjoy words and language. I’m highly analytical, but can (usually) set that trait aside when warranted. Working to make a significant difference (to humans, non-humans, society, etc.) is very important to me.
Expanding on some of the above:
I became vegetarian at 11, then vegan at 16 (when I realized the treatment of animals in the egg and dairy industries).
I started college young, initially as a physics major, ended up getting a feminist studies degree, then did grad school in computer engineering.
I very much enjoy words and language and really like interacting with others who do as well.
I’ve long been very active in social justice causes, primarily focusing on animal rights, Mideast peace, feminism, and reducing nuclear power, waste, and weapons.
I tend to see and appreciate how others experience the world, even when their experiences are very different from my own.
I’m deeply committed to being able to hear other people’s observations of both my helpful and unhelpful patterns, and to doing the ongoing work to address them. I’m able to take in feedback, even difficult feedback, without becoming defensive or closing down.
I care very deeply about not hurting others (humans and non-humans alike). That’s not always possible, sadly, but I try.
While I live in Santa Cruz, California, my work (as a computer engineer) offers me a great deal of flexibility.
Expanding on some of the above:
I became vegetarian at 11, then vegan at 16 (when I realized the treatment of animals in the egg and dairy industries).
I started college young, initially as a physics major, ended up getting a feminist studies degree, then did grad school in computer engineering.
I very much enjoy words and language and really like interacting with others who do as well.
I’ve long been very active in social justice causes, primarily focusing on animal rights, Mideast peace, feminism, and reducing nuclear power, waste, and weapons.
I tend to see and appreciate how others experience the world, even when their experiences are very different from my own.
I’m deeply committed to being able to hear other people’s observations of both my helpful and unhelpful patterns, and to doing the ongoing work to address them. I’m able to take in feedback, even difficult feedback, without becoming defensive or closing down.
I care very deeply about not hurting others (humans and non-humans alike). That’s not always possible, sadly, but I try.
While I live in Santa Cruz, California, my work (as a computer engineer) offers me a great deal of flexibility.
Seeking:
In short:
You’re intelligent, compassionate, communicative, and a committed vegan. You’re emotionally mature, feminist, and strong. It’s important to you to make a difference. You’re comfortable being analytical when appropriate (even if it’s not your default mode).
More details:
You’re vegan, preferably in large part for the animals. Ethical veganism is so central to my world that it isn't realistic to be involved with someone who doesn’t share that. It's no accident that this is listed first.
You’re very smart. I won’t find a strong, smart woman intimidating; indeed, I will appreciate those qualities.
You enjoy language, words, the *fun* of communication. Verbal precision turns you on. You find verbal banter and playfulness exciting. Perhaps you even think words are sexy.
You’re committed to, and can provide, clear, complete, direct, and honest communication. You trust that with a person who shares that commitment, communicating about even potentially contentious topics doesn’t need to be difficult and, in any case, is worthwhile in the long run. You can “disagree without being disagreeable.” You might have trigger or hot-button issues, but you’re aware of them and don’t let them control your actions (at least not for long).
You’re emotionally aware and are able to communicate your needs and feelings even in the midst of fraught situations.
You’re self-reflective, are committed to exploring your own motivations, preconceptions, and fears, and make conscious choices about how you want to address them.
Your default approach to issues, or at least an approach you have available when you choose to use it, is one of rational analysis. (Though that’s not to say you always make the “rational” choice; I recognize the value of spontaneity as well.)
It’s important to you to make a difference in some way; to people, non-human animals, the environment, society, or maybe something else.
You’re intelligent, compassionate, communicative, and a committed vegan. You’re emotionally mature, feminist, and strong. It’s important to you to make a difference. You’re comfortable being analytical when appropriate (even if it’s not your default mode).
More details:
You’re vegan, preferably in large part for the animals. Ethical veganism is so central to my world that it isn't realistic to be involved with someone who doesn’t share that. It's no accident that this is listed first.
You’re very smart. I won’t find a strong, smart woman intimidating; indeed, I will appreciate those qualities.
You enjoy language, words, the *fun* of communication. Verbal precision turns you on. You find verbal banter and playfulness exciting. Perhaps you even think words are sexy.
You’re committed to, and can provide, clear, complete, direct, and honest communication. You trust that with a person who shares that commitment, communicating about even potentially contentious topics doesn’t need to be difficult and, in any case, is worthwhile in the long run. You can “disagree without being disagreeable.” You might have trigger or hot-button issues, but you’re aware of them and don’t let them control your actions (at least not for long).
You’re emotionally aware and are able to communicate your needs and feelings even in the midst of fraught situations.
You’re self-reflective, are committed to exploring your own motivations, preconceptions, and fears, and make conscious choices about how you want to address them.
Your default approach to issues, or at least an approach you have available when you choose to use it, is one of rational analysis. (Though that’s not to say you always make the “rational” choice; I recognize the value of spontaneity as well.)
It’s important to you to make a difference in some way; to people, non-human animals, the environment, society, or maybe something else.
