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Location:	Winchester, Virginia
Age:	48 years old
Gender:	female
Ethnicity:	Caucasian / White
Diet:	Vegan
Religion:	spiritual
Alcohol:	Never
Smokes:	Never
Body type:	Curvy
Height:	5' 5"  (165cm)
Sign:	Leo (July 23 - Aug 23)
Marital status:	Single (never married)
Have Kids:	None
Want Kids:	Probably not
Education:	PhD/Post Doc
Income:	$40,000 to $60,000
Relocation:	Possible
Relationship:	Serious relationship/marriage OR activity partner

My description:

I'm looking for new friends and potential romantic interests who are also seeking other humans to genuinely emotionally connect with. If you are curious about learning more about yourself through relationship with others, you "have done the work" and continue to do the work, and you are vegan (see additional info on that below) let's connect!

I'm looking for friends first, not romance per se. I don't consider a romantic relationship to be the goal, but rather think of it as a particular type of deep friendship that emerges between people who have developed a great deal of feeling and trust between them over a long period of time. I think everything about how we approach romantic relationships is more or less completely upside down. Let's first investigate who we are to one another, and if we share a mutual admiration for and enjoyment of one another. No timeline, no pressure, no particular goal in mind, just an open interest in whatever emerges. Of course romance is wonderful if that is what is in store for us! But let's stay open and curious and avoid the usual scripts.

All that said, a bit about me and what is most important to me. 

I've been vegan for 20+ years and was vegetarian many years prior to that. 

I'm passionate about veganic permaculture and I live on a spectacularly overgrown and almost entirely untamed five acres in rural West Virginia, where I don't have an HOA to complain about my bad behavior. 

I work as a coach and counselor, and I am a huge believer in (good!) therapy. If you don't have a very good sense of how your childhood wounds are still influencing your patterns and emotional capacity as an adult, and you don't have a real passion for healing and expanding that capacity, we probably won't be able to develop much of a connection.

I would say I'm "spiritual but not religious," as annoying as that phrase is. I believe we are spiritual beings having a physical experience, and that our prime directive is to grow toward truth and love. I find a great deal of faith in the divine order to things (and the nature of that divine order) by observing the natural world.

I'm over a decade sober, and as part of my recovery I practice (or try to, however awkwardly and uncomfortably and imperfectly) radical honesty. 

Some things I value very much in other people, and in our time together:

* Slow, focused time and attention
* Reverence for life and emotional and spiritual growth
* Self-responsibility and humility
* A passion for relational repair
* A passion for the truth and courage to meet whatever it reveals

Some things that don't work for me in relationship, whether it is a romantic relationship or not:

* Ultimatums
* Deception
* A transactional ethos
* Contempt
* Arrogance, superiority, and entitlement
* Addiction

Seeking:

The people I enjoy most are whip-smart, spiritually curious, compassionate, and emotionally intelligent. Great humor is also really important to me. I want to build friendships where growth as individuals and toward one another is the primary goal, and there exists a real, sincere commitment to that goal that involves (among other things): a great deal of self-reflection and discussion, ongoing efforts to achieve greater clarity around conflicts and triggers as they arise or have the potential to arise, and heaps of affection, respect, and mutual encouragement along the way.

I want us to always have the courage to tell one another the truth, even if it means risking it all. 

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