Other details: I am monogamous, I'm not against short-term relationships right now but I do strongly prefer long-ones, but being monogamous is just how I'm wired and I don't think it's a bad thing. Note: this doesn't make me anti-poly or anything like that, I'm just wired to pair-bond and go super deep in love with that person. I am very intense, can be very playful and fun at times, rough at others (in a good way) and still have times when I'm very caring and love to connect deeply. I have paradoxical mixtures of both rough and loving things in my personality (think very strong and tough but also tender and caring), I also like to touch a lot, be affectionate, and cuddle but at the same time can also be dominant rough in a very fun way.

I am extremely nice but have a bit of a dark sense of humor too and have been known to pull off some amazing pranks on friends (peaceful and fun/ not harmful or mean other than maybe scary around Halloween). I am also very intelligent even by very intelligent peoples standards ( sapiosexual people would love me apparently ) and I don't mean that in an egotistical way but it is one notable part of me, and being so is not always fun (think: gets to see more suffering in the world than most people and is aware of things that I sometimes wish I wasn't), but this is tempered with lots of wisdom in many areas. The plus side of that is I have a great appreciation for things and I have a great career. I also tend to have life-long friends, some I've known since I was 8-years old. This puts me in the category of having fewer but much deeper relationships (I think this is a good thing) but another paradox appears in that although I am a public speaker who can be very social and lots of fun at parties I actually would rather just hang out with my best friends (family friends) in smaller more intimate settings where we can actually have deep conversations. BTW: My (family friends) have an extremely diverse set of backgrounds, they are all GREAT people many are also really fun or intense people to hang out with but it can seem as if none of them have anything in common with each other at times. I do like meeting new people and am really good at introducing myself to others and talking to anyone but a small dinner party for 4 to 12 is in some ways much more fun for me. I also read a lot of philosophy (all sorts) and occasionally (not as frequent as I'd like) enjoy the deeper aspects of meditation, specifically the state of presence and awareness.

I'm also into a lot of other things but not heavily into these at the moment: meditation, Buddhist philosophy, yoga, tai chi, weight-lifting, reading all sorts of stuff, I like interesting films, I don't really watch tv at all but I'm open to occasionally binge-watching series, I like science fiction (I'm not hardcore into it but do like to see futuristic films occasionally), foreign films, films with unusual cinematography, Japanese anime is cool but I'm not heavily into it, I could get into board-games with friends or card-games or similar social games but don't currently play any, I like to write but don't do as much as I'd like too, I like creating art but am usually spending my free time on other things. I've had a lot of other more esoteric interests and experiences in the past that may be of interest to some people, eye-gazing, tantra, kirtan. I do a tiny amount of yoga almost every day but it's been years since I've done it seriously. I love making large elaborate dinners for holidays or parties and can be a great cook in that regard (think beautiful time-consuming multi-course meals) but I haven't mastered the 20-minute meal by any means although I do make some really tasty simple (ingredient-wise) meals from time to time. Speaking of which I love organic food but not in that I think it's magic but in the sense of I don't like the idea of eating "slow-kill" poison-ridden foods (why is that even a thing anymore). Not a fan of Monsanto in this regard. I also try to cook with almost no oil, no sugar, and almost no salt. It's not a strict avoidance at all, but I find if my default cooking leans towards healthy that's a good long-term trend. That said I still occasionally love grabbing some pizza at sizzle pie or pizza-pi or having an Indian Thali, Thai curries, or going all out on vegan sushi from time to time.

Finally, I do need to mention that I'm still kind of easing into the idea of dating again and am not checking this site frequently, especially during the week or when I'm traveling. So my apologies in advance for any delayed replies. Be a little patient with me but feel free to write a long e-mail or tell me what you are thinking in multiple messages if you feel like it. Communication is very welcome I'm just a bit busy at the moment.

Finally, you should NOT contact me if any of the following apply:
- You watch Fox News
- You work for Fox News
- You don't bathe regularly.
- You throw trash on the highway.
- You throw trash in the ocean.
- You hate cuddling.
- You hate books (exception if you are a digital reader).
- You don't tip.
- You harm animals for pleasure.
- You're that person who lets their dog poop in other
peoples yards and just leaves it there.
- You park in the handicap spots when you are in a rush.
- Have ever had the nickname "The Bitch" or "Drama"
- You know you are a raging alcoholic
- You recently lost your license due to a string of DUI's that
really wasn't your fault. Trust me, we are not a match.
- You voted for Fuckface Von Clownstick
- You ever even for a single second liked the idea of being on the Jerry Springer show.
- You think I look like your ex.
- You think I look like your dad.
- You think I look like your mom.
- Sadly the people who don't read this far can't include themselves but they are easy to spot...

Whether I'm a match or not, thank you for taking the time to read all this. There is a lot more I'd like to say but I think this is enough to help the dating filtering process get started. Do not be afraid to ask me weird or simple questions either. I am super easy to talk to and will respect any question you want to ask or idea you want to discuss even if it has nothing to do with me in a potential dating context. Thanks.